But Why?


We are beings that like to ask questions because the answers shape our world.

So shouldn’t we be very careful about what questions we ask? Sounds like a good approach, right?

As children we keep asking “Why?” all the time, much to our parents annoyance.

But this is the question we needed answered in order to make sense of everything.

Then, as we grow up it’s all “How?” and “What?”. It stops being about the reasons behind something and starts being about “how?” to get in control of things by doing “what?”.

And yet, that question does not work without first understanding why we are even doing anything. If we don’t ask “Why?” we are robbed of connecting with our desires. Not asking why breaks the link to our heart and thus to our sense of orientation. We must rebuild that bridge.

A WHY can be a simple thing like “because it feels right” or “because that’s what I need to be doing.” It has an emotional quality. If you can only think of superficial or materialistic answers to WHY, you have to dig deeper and understand where this answer comes from. Materialistic answers typically come from an emotional place. For example, you are working hard because you want to make $250,000 dollars a year. Why do you want to make $250,000? Because doing so helps you pay tuition for your kids. Materialistic things are enablers. Look beyond the material and see what it is that you are really aiming for. That is your WHY. Once you understand that, the HOW and WHAT will fall into place.

Vira Egli